Candle

It is better to light a candle than to damn darkness.

- Confucius

Let others be right most of the time

Being right, defending our positions, takes an enormous amount of mental energy and often alienates us from the people in our lives.

Needing to be right — or needing someone else to be wrong — encourages others to become defensive, and puts pressure on us to keep defending. Yet, many of us spend a great deal of time and energy attempting to prove (or point out) that we are right — and/or others are wrong.

Many people, consciously or unconsciously, believe that it’s somehow their job to show others how their positions, statements, and points of view are incorrect, and that in doing so, the person they are correcting is going to somehow appreciate it. Wrong! Have you ever been corrected by someone and said to the person who was trying to be right, “Thank you so much for showing me that I’m wrong and you’re right.” Or, has anyone you know ever thanked you when you corrected them, or made yourself “right” at their expense? Of course not.

The truth is, all of us hate to be corrected. We all want our positions to be respected and understood by others. Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart. And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected.

It’s not that it’s never appropriate to be right — sometimes you genuinely need to be or want to be. Perhaps there are certain philosophical positions that you don’t want to budge on, such as when you hear a racist comment. Here, it’s important to speak your mind.

Usually, however, it’s just your ego creeping in and ruining an otherwise peaceful encounter — a habit of wanting or needing to be right. A wonderful, strategy for becoming more peaceful and loving is to practice allowing others the joy of being right — give them the glory.

Stop correcting.

As hard as it may be to change this habit, it’s worth any effort and practice it takes. The people in your life will become less defensive and more loving. They will appreciate you more than you could ever have dreamed possible, even if they don’t exactly know why. You’ll discover the joy of participating in and witnessing other people’s happiness, which is far more rewarding than a battle of egos. You don’t have to sacrifice your deepest philosophical truths or most heartfelt opinions, but, starting today, let others be “right,” most of the time!

-- RICHARD CARLSON

courtesy -- C KPPK

Happiness

Happiness is knowing that somewhere
there is someone who only cares for u,
some one who will pick u up when u fall,
someone who only knows u,
who will hold u when u cry
and embrace u when u smile,
happiness is when u know that person is just for u..!!

--Unknown

No Friendship

Between men and women there is no friendship possible.
There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.

--Oscar Wilde

Are u settled for less?

The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.

-- Unknown

How to argue?

If you go in for argument, take care of your temper. Your logic, if you have any, will take care of itself.

-- Joseph Farrell